Know Thy Moon: Before you enter any longterm relationship
To anyone who wants to have a successful relationship, there are some work you have to do that helps you help the relationship succeed.
You have to discover who you are. This means knowing:
what your emotional makeup is,
what your triggers are
What your wounding are,
And where those woundings came from,
The things you avoid, and the things that you like,
The masks that you wear,
Your shadows
These reveal the nitty gritty of who you really are, not your dating profile or Instagram label. It is not even who you are rolling out of bed the day after with bad hair or breath, or on a slump after work. It is the whole truth of who you are today.
Coupling together
This is important because without knowing who you really are, how can you figure out a relationship with someone without seeing your hand in it?
Many people claim they are a calm cucumber or an eternal life of the party, that is until they get with someone else who brings out a total opposite of their claim. Who is right, then? It’s easy not to be triggered (and remain calm) when you are isolated.
Imagine you get married or enter a longterm relationship with someone. Every day, and in different situations, the two of you are bumping up against each other with all of your shadows, masks, likes & dislikes, triggers, goals and dreams… You co-habitate — you share your habits, hopefully consciously and intentionally. However, it is often subconscious and hurts arise. Hurts occur.
Is it any wonder relationships can seem a hot heavy steamy mess? We haven’t taken time to look at ourselves and love ourselves.
Everyone is a Mirror
The irony is that it also takes a longterm relationship to reveal many aspects of ourselves. Your partners and children are your strongest mirrors, as they are that much more energetically tied to you. Their darkness and their light mirrors yours.
Mothers with children can find this seems exhausting or wonder if they are even on the right path. I began sharing my free mother-and-child readings for this reason, when I realised that we “choose” one another.
For example, not until some women have children do they realise they begin showing up as their mother! Men begin to repeat the same harsh words or hands that their own fathers had. Word for word, or strike for strike.
Knowing yourself is NOT just about your Moon sign. However it is a large part of our emotional, private selves. As you begin to know yourself, you will begin with connect with others based on authenticity, rather than wounds. You will feel a deeper, loving connection in this exchange.
Attract true love
The caveat is, a successful relationship doesn’t have a finish line. We don’t get to pronounce the relationship “successful”, and take an off day forevermore. A successful relationship is made daily.
Likewise, growing and healing is a lifelong journey.
However, the amazing truth is that once you commit to working on yourself, you are etching a firm foundation for a relationship. You CAN quantum leap ahead in your personal growth. You can do in a few months or years what many never come around to doing in a lifetime.
Every day builds on the other. Some days are quiet and breezy work. Some days take more effort. Over time, most days will become so joyful and pure flow.
Before long, time flies as it always does, you look at each other and the love you feel pouring out of your heart enriches each other’s soul. It is a beautiful mirror for your loved ones around you.
Know thyself.