7 Behaviors Your Moon Sign Tends to Do That Is Pushing People Away
Most of us try to be on our best behaviour when we meet another, especially for the first time. Particularly if it’s on a date and during the honeymoon phase.
We are mindful about how we speak and act with partners that we want to attract.
But we are human, and we may still be carrying emotional and physical baggage. When it comes to light, when we live in close quarters, it can result in disillusionment that can threaten the relationship.
Why do relationship break up?
We tend to point to events that crossed an irrevocable line.
Most people might say that their relationships end because of growing incompatibilities, deal breakers that we didn’t know about previously, or crises such as infidelities or addictions.
Relationships break because of how each person behaves With the other over time
It takes time to unglue a steady relationship. It took time to build a relationship with someone, and it takes time to de-stabilise the foundations with someone whom you know and value for a few years.
Underlying personality characteristics and behaviours are likely pushing a partner away even when more obvious reasons like an actual event/crisis don’t exist...
We enter into each new relationship already with our own biases and beliefs, manifesting them and may unknowingly create a self-fulling prophecy...if we are unaware that they are behaving that way.
Outrage
Do you believe in “better out than in”, and express it to those (including things) you live in proximity with?
Do you often think or feel:
How could you even think/do such a thing?
Who would do that?
What kind of person would think/do that?
Can you believe that she/he did that?
I would never do that!
Is it normal to express outrage regularly? It may be tolerated by others around you, and even tacitly agreed with. Fire Moon signs may have grown up familiar to such modes of expressions in their early life, and believe it’s an authentic way of expression.
However, this can be deeply draining for Moon signs in other elements—an Air Moon, for example, simply does not function that way. A passionate declaration from you can come across as an out-of-control tirade, panicking your poor Moon in air sign partner, who’s now struggling to breathe amidst your flames.
Anger is often a cover for powerlessness. It injects toxicity into the relationship when continually expressed. You’ll know your outrage is toxic, when it is sucking the life out of your relationship, rather than being the fuel you hope it to be.
Outrage is seen as difficult to fix. They have a life of their own that transfers powerlessness to the other partner.
Perpetual Victimhood
Some people are wedded to their sorrow and play the victim role.
It usually originates from past traumatic experiences, often rooted in childhood. It leads to a belief system that they are perpetual victims.
Are you always saying or feeling, "Poor me!”?
Or these:
“If only I had time/energy/money like you do.”
“Oh, you think you have it bad? What about…”
“There’s nothing that can be done.”
“You don’t understand; so, I cannot trust you.”
“Pay attention to my problems. You should feel sorry for me.”
It becomes tiring for the partner because you tend to blame him/her for things, expect them to solve problems, and seek sympathy.
The relationship erodes as the dynamic becomes skewed. One partner taking on the role of the victim and the other feeling burdened or overwhelmed. Sometimes both begin to feel victimised for different reasons.
Debilitated Moons in Water signs may find it hard to swim above their emotions. Most do whatever they can to rebound and return to a better life, even if it takes a while.
Moon in Earth signs (Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn) can be overly materialistic and envy the things other people have.
Moon in Virgos strive for perfection, which practically guarantees them victimising themselves. When you're constantly trying to reach the goal of perfectionism, you're always going to end up feeling frustrated when you (and others human like you) fail.
Your mate tries to help, but even that seems to reinforce the victim mentality.
Easily Frustrated
Are you easily annoyed? Do most people and situations often irritate you? Do you react quickly when things don’t go the way you expected?
Fixed Moon signs (Leo, Aquarius, Scorpio) tend to be more inflexible, which creates friction (sometimes for yourself).
Moon in Geminis can irritable if losing an argument. Moon in Libras may contain all the little annoyances (you’ll hear about it later), while Moon in Scorpions could lash out after enough annoyances have accumulated.
Moon in Virgo can find it hard to relax when they feel a zillion things around them demand their attention, as do the other Earth Moons (in Taurus and Capricorn), who naturally notice such material matter. Their critique meter is on alert.
No one can be around a person who is intolerant of too many small issues in most situations.
It steals the joy of anything good or joyful that could be focused upon instead.
Endless Rehashing
We probably all know someone (maybe it is you) who has to go over things repeatedly and relive every moment.
Moon in Water signs (Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces) can become so preoccupied by emotional events that they cannot let in new information that might actually help stop the cycle.
Moon in Scorpio is obsessive about getting to the bottom of things even if they endlessly repeat themselves.
Moon in Gemini (an air sign) can also talk themselves into a frenzy. Gemini is represented by the twins, representing their propensity towards multiple perspectives... Except it can be exhausting for a mate to keep hearing about it.
Sarcasm
Playful teasing, when both the teaser and “teasee” are enjoying the interaction, is different from sarcasm.
The latter usually is laced with scorn or mockery. The joke is on the person on the other end who may be good-natured enough to laugh, but it’s a rose-covered hilt and doesn’t usually feel good.
When your Moon is debilitated (making hard aspects to other planets) and/or in signs uncomfortable with emotional intimacy, you may find yourself putting the joke on another too often.
Moon in air signs (Gemini, Aquarius) sometimes miss the emotional nuances amid the laughs, even if they’re the only ones laughing.
Sarcastic people may be insecure, uncomfortable with intimacy, or scared themselves of being the butt of a joke, but that behavior can be wearing over time.
Your partner may put up with you more easily if you are funny enough to get away with it, or truly feel apologetic when told you’ve been hurtful, but it gets a little more flat each time.
Taking centre stage
Finally, no matter the perceived problem, it is hard to be on the other end of someone who can only see the world from their own point of view.
Do you only talk only about yourself? Or are you mindful about asking your mate questions?
This behaviour can apply to the Moon in every sign (as do the other behaviours—but we are talking about propensity and styles).
For example, Moon in Leo, ruled by the Sun, naturally considers his/her own viewpoint anyway. But the Moon in Cancer, ruled by the Moon itself, can also suffer this “me, me, me” syndrome when debilitated.
If that person is charismatic and fascinating, other signs can appreciate this showiness about their mate. But in the longterm, most don’t want to bother competing.